Dating a sex worker
Due to trauma suffered by Rantsi while operating as a sex worker, she attends trauma counselling sessions arranged for her by the love of her life. IF you've ever wondered what it would be like to date a sex worker, then a group of men who do just that have answered all your questions for you.She anticipated judgment, which was usually what happened when people found out. She explains,“Tears were running down his cheeks and they were tears of love and compassion.He gave me a warm hug and whispered in my ear:‘It will be ok. That was the shock of my life.” Some of his close relatives and friends knew that Rantsi was a sex worker and they also showed support. He now understands the issues of sex workers more than before.Rantsi, who has been a sex worker for three years narrates the ordeal that lead to her meeting the love of her life two years ago.Sex work has long been criticised and stigmatised in our society and it has never been regarded as a serious profession.She asked me once: ‘Does it bother you that I've had sex with over 2,000 men?’ He did add that men dating sex workers should make sure that their partners are safe, and doing it for the right reasons, although he added that "cheating has absolutely nothing to do with her profession.
“I was prepared for shock and disappointment.” For context Rantsi told him about the struggles of her childhood leading to the circumstances that led to her becoming a sex worker.
Thamae says he has loved Rantsi since the first day he met her. Because Rantsi had indicated that financial circumstances led her to sex work, they decided together to find a way to deal with their financial challenges.
At the time of this interview, they were planning to get married in June of 2018.
This is where society has it all wrong about sex work.
Sex work is a profession which must be respected like any other. Having lost her mother when she was only 11 years old, she and her siblings struggled after the death of the matriarch.
Rantsi was constantly harassed, humiliated and abused by clients and the general public. Initially she thought Thamae was just like other guys she had dated previously.