Sex and dating after 40
Other than that, "don't wait to have sex until the end of the day when you're exhausted," says Dr. If you're a morning person, try a little wake-up nookie, or if possible, a bit of afternoon delight.Myth 5: You don't have to worry about birth control.Myth 3: Your body isn't sexual once you enter perimenopause.Truth: The changes that occur in the (sometimes) years before menopause, such as irregular periods, mood changes and lack of vaginal lubrication will affect your sex life. Take dryness: Using a lubricant such as KY Jelly helps, but so does the act of having sex: "When blood goes to the genitals, the tissues remain healthy," encouraging natural lubrication.For one couple, once a month feels fine, whereas for others three times a week is practically nothing."Figure out how much sex is enough before you decide you have a libido problem," says Mc Grath.Most people over 40 are established in their lives, with steady careers and families.When seeking a new mate, you have way more responsibilities and things that demand your attention at this stage than when you were in college or just graduating.
And look at your lifestyle: Maybe you need to pare down your commitments and get better sleep by regulating your bedtime and removing un-sexy (and rest-interfering) TVs and computers from your bedroom.Truth: Tell that to the legion of late-life moms toting their beloved "oops" babies!"It's hard to know exactly when you'll stop ovulating, even if you're in the middle of perimenopause," says Dr. "To check when you can skip protection, your doctor can do a blood test." The level of follicle stimulating hormone (FSH) in your blood canreveal whether you're still fertile, but levels fluctuate during perimenopause, so even a low FSH level may be misleading. Menopause isn't official until you've gone a full year without a period, says Mc Grath. You still have to protect against sexually transmitted diseases, so use condoms until you're sure about your partner's past.Plus, you know your body better than you ever did in your 20s." All those years living in your skin has taught you what turns you on that you just didn't know two decades ago.